July 2, 2014 at 6:07 pm | Cheating | No comment
Cheating is a hard thing for the average woman to forgive. It’s not just the breaking of the marriage vows that is difficult for her to forgive. No matter what she says, there’s more to it than that.
Women are complicated creatures. There’s no denying that. Their reason for having such a difficult time forgiving affairs is surprisingly uncomplicated and straightforward. Your affair hits her where she hurts most – her confidence. It leaves her shaken, vulnerable, and insecure in your love for her and everything she believed to be true about your love for her.
The key is to overcome that shaken confidence. It’s only once you’re able to restore the lost confidence that she’ll be able to move on and finally forgive you for cheating.
Sound like a tall order?
You better believe it can be. But, that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. In fact, quite the opposite is true. You can do a few little things each day that will, slowly but surely, restore her faith in you, your love, and your relationship.
Where do you begin?
Start with simple words affirming your love for her. Tell her as often as she’ll hear it. Don’t beg. Don’t berate. Don’t offer excuses. Simply let her know she is loved by you.
Show her how you really feel. Small gestures often matter most. Write her little love notes. Serve breakfast in bed. Give her a night (or morning) off by taking over her typical duties for that night and morning. Start a weekly date night and do something bigger, better, and more than dinner and a movie.
Make her a priority in your life. You lead a busy life. You’re often busy providing for your family. You think you’re doing the right thing. Then, one day, you discover that your family feels like you’ve abandoned them. You’re hurt. They’re hurt. Everyone’s hurt. Take time to appreciate what you nave now rather than using it up preparing for a future that’s so uncertain.
If you haven’t already, end the affair. There’s no future for your marriage and no forgiveness that is going to come as long as the affair continues. End it. Then focus your full, undivided attention on repairing your marriage once and for all.
These little things might not seem like a big deal. They don’t involve pricy purchases, expensive gifts, or hours of endless (and mostly useless) groveling. They’re as straightforward and shockingly effective for gaining her forgiveness.