March 14, 2014 at 1:47 pm | Ex Back | No comment
No matter how down and out you feel about the ending of your relationship, it’s important to understand that it’s not completely your fault things didn’t work out. No matter what your ex tries to convince you, it takes two people to make or break a relationship. It will take two people working together to put it back together again. You need to understand this and ask for things to change before you get your ex back. These are the reasons why you deserve better in the future.
You Bring Value to the Relationship Too
Everyone in a relationship has a role to play and a contribution to make. Both of you bring something special and unique to the relationship. The key is to learn to value your own contribution to the relationship and ask for the things you need that you aren’t getting out of the relationship. It’s also equally important that you invite your boyfriend to do the same and listen with an open mind when he does.
He’ll Respect You More For It
Respect is important for men. They love being shown respect. Even more, they love it when the woman they love earns their respect. He wants to be proud of you. He also wants to be proud to be associated with you. When you stand up for yourself and ask him to show you the respect you deserve, he will be a little surprised at first, but much more likely to deliver than if you never asked.
Respect is a Two-Way Street
It’s very important to show your man respect. It’s one of the most important things you can do for your man if you want to keep him happy and make your relationship last. But you also need to expect it from him. Be careful about accepting anything less than the respect you deserve from him and for going back to him if he isn’t willing to give you the respect. Respect should never be given that it isn’t earned and it should never be sacrificed in the name of love.
Because You’re Worth It
Back in the 1980’s, a prominent cosmetics company coined the phrase, “Because you’re worth it.” The slogan was to remind women that they deserve the very best in cosmetics and hair care items because of all the things they do at home, on the job, and in their relationships. While the slogan still circulates, the message has gotten lost in a large segment of women. You forget that you deserve respect. You’re worth it. Say it with me. “You’re worth it!” Now remember that whenever tempers flare and disrespectful words are uttered or deeds are done and demand better in the future – for the sake of your relationship and your sanity.
It’s not enough to go back to the way things were right before your breakup. You need to do better this time around. Better begins with asking for the things you need in the relationship and expecting to get them this time around.