January 15, 2015 at 5:39 pm | Ex Back | No comment
Going through a breakup can be an emotional battle. Life changes so quickly and dramatically that some people feel they could never be as happy as they once were. Not all breakups have to happen though.
Many people who have felt strongly enough for someone to give them another chance have successfully built back their relationship. With a newfound lack of trust you may find yourself skeptical of things getting any better.
These guidelines to rebuilding relationships can help lead you down the right path.
The first thing every couple should consider when they get together is trust. I know, you have probably heard that a million times. People still manage to overlook the seriousness of this obviously necessary aspect.
If you cannot build back a strong level of trust, you may never find yourself comfortable in the relationship. At the end of every day, you should be reflecting how strong your trust bond is.
Now that you have trust on your mind its time to start working out your patience muscle. You may have to push it further than it’s ever been but it will be completely worth it if you end up re-building a great relationship.
The road to recovery is going to be difficult and take a great while. Try to focus on minor improvements and see them as you moving closer to your goal.
You will also have to be patient with your partner. People don’t change completely overnight. If you had conflicting interests, then you will have to give each other an adequate period of time to adapt the right attitude.
Take your focus off of the person and put it on to the problem. Image yourself teaming up with your partner to achieve the ultimate goal: forming a lasting relationship.
One common issue that couples face when trying to mend their relationship is the return of old problems. Sometimes old arguments seem like they will never die.
Just when you thought you were over something it ends up firing right back up. To avoid this classic pitfall you need to be ready to find new ways of dealing with the issue.
Think about it, if you have had the same argument over five times, the way you are currently handling just won’t work. Stay open to options that you haven’t previously considered. You might have to do things you aren’t completely comfortable with at times but you will see yourself growing closer as a couple.
You better be ready to open up as well, because honesty is the mortar that holds all this stuff together. It plays a pivotal role in gaining trust. Building up patience also takes a lot of trust as well.
Having faith in your partner and yourself to make serious changes without falling apart is crucial. A heavy percentage of breakups happen because there wasn’t enough honesty to begin with.
Most importantly, be honest with yourself. Do you really want to give the relationship a shot? Are you both putting in the same amount of effort? Do you hide your issues until they overload into a huge fight?
You would be surprised to find out how easy it is to lie to yourself, since the brain tends to believe anything that makes it feel better. With an open mind, and open heart, and an optimistic attitude there is no reason you and your partner can’t fix what used to be broken.
Do you agree?