July 17, 2014 at 2:35 pm | Marriage | No comment
Everywhere you look whether it’s the news, television, or online, you constantly hear about the ending of some relationship. This celebrity left this one for that one; this person cheated and this one walked out – it goes on and on.
If all the hoopla surrounding the integrity of relationships is true, we’re all in trouble.
It appears couples are now more than ever postponing divorce due to the state of the economy, encouraging advice from bloggers and reporters alike on how to co-exist with your estranged significant other. Maybe there’s a better way…
Are there any truly happy couples out there? Yes, of course. There are happy couples everywhere if you look. However, headlines that start with the word “divorce” rather than “happy” seem to draw a much larger audience. Sadly, people take a natural interest in conflict.
So, how do these so called “happy couples” stay happy through the typical ups and downs of a relationship, especially given today’s economic trials and tribulations? Perhaps they’re just lucky people. Or, maybe they’re just excessively submissive – “yes, dear”.
Some exciting new relationship studies have recently unveiled a few surprising facts that may conflict with your core beliefs. Consider the following ideas to determine how they relate to your current relationship or at the very least, offer you some new insight.
1. Communication Isn’t Everything
What? That can’t be right. Every relationship expert in the world will tell you that effective communication is at the very core of a solid relationship.
In the dictionary, communication is defined as effectively sharing or expressing feelings and ideas. While this is true of course, communication is hugely misconstrued in the eyes of many people since they interpret it as their spouse bombarding them with righteous opinions and veritable facts.
If you really stop and think about it, the happiest people on the planet are the ones who know how to listen to others and empathize with them. That’s not to say they always agree or don’t have their own opinions, but they sincerely make the effort to see things from their partner’s point of view. In other words, they’re more contemplative than communicative.
2. Date nights? Forget them
The whole purpose of date night is to enjoy the company of your partner, reconnect with them, catch up, and just get close to one another (sex). Date night is a great attempt to relight the fire.
However, after a grueling week at work, changing diapers, helping with homework, cleaning the house, and cooking for an entire family – there’s not much left of you. Cut to the chase and just get to the sex. There will be many date nights in your future.
Think of it this way – date night is a luxury while sex is a necessity. There’s no better way for two people who love each other to “connect” than through the act of sex. Where there’s a will, there’s a way.
3. It’s Okay to Sometimes Go to Bed Angry
Your relationship isn’t always going to be peaches and cream. Sometimes, not everything can be worked out in one day, or one night.
You and your partner both may need to just take a breather and enough time to simply think about the issue at hand. “Sleeping on it” may be the best approach, and in the morning you may have a fresh new perspective on the matter and quickly resolve the problem.
Every couple is different. What works for some may not work for others, and that’s okay. The point is that each couple should follow their own path to success rather than doing exactly what the experts say, or what others believe is best for them.